Posts by Jef Blocker
Healthy Body, Not Perfect Body
What gay and bisexual men can gain by shifting from a weight-centric mindset to a weight-inclusive approach to health. I was a skinny kid. Tall and lanky, with the build of a distance runner, I could eat just about anything I wanted without gaining an ounce. Some people might consider that a blessing. But as…
Read MoreHow Letting Go Can Make Room for a Bigger Life
Sometimes moving forward isn’t about adding more. It’s about releasing what no longer fits. September feels like an in-between month. Summer hasn’t quite released us, especially here in Atlanta, but autumn is beginning to make itself known. The days grow a little shorter. The light begins to change. Nature starts preparing for a season of…
Read MoreHow Can a Life Coach Help You Make a Difficult Decision?
A coach doesn’t tell you what to do. Coaching helps you hear yourself more clearly. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes “I don’t know what to do.” It’s one of the reasons people seek out a life coach. Should I stay in this job or leave? Should I move? Should I end this relationship? Should I…
Read MoreWhy We Ignore What We Want
Knowing what you want is one thing. Giving yourself permission to pursue it is another. https://jefblockercoaching.com/contact-2/Estimated reading time: 10 minutes Sometimes people know exactly what they want. They’ve known for years. The problem isn’t clarity. The problem is permission. Permission to disappoint people. Permission to leave. Permission to start over. Permission to choose themselves. I…
Read MoreHow to Know What You Really Want
Many people are not lost. They are following someone else’s map. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes One of the most common things I hear from people is: “I don’t know what I want.” They say it when they’re unhappy in their jobs. When relationships aren’t working. When life feels flat. When they’ve accomplished everything they…
Read MoreBecoming More Fully Yourself
Growth is not about becoming someone entirely new. It’s about returning to the parts of yourself that were always there. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes For much of my life, I thought personal growth meant becoming someone better. More successful. More productive. More polished. More acceptable. But over time, I’ve realized something very different. Becoming…
Read MoreWhy So Many Adults Have Forgotten How to Play
Healing is not only about reducing stress. It’s also about remembering what makes us feel alive. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes I think many adults are quietly exhausted not only because they’re overworked, but because they’ve lost touch with play, curiosity, creativity, and joy. Life becomes: responsibilities schedules bills productivity caregiving stress management endless tasks…
Read MoreYour Home Affects You More Than You Think
Creating a home that supports who you are becoming instead of who you used to be. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes I think many people underestimate how deeply their environments affect them. Not just physically. Emotionally too. The spaces we live in quietly influence: our mood nervous system energy creativity focus rest relationships sense of…
Read MoreWhat Healthy Connection Actually Feels Like
The right relationships do not require you to abandon yourself to keep them. Estimated reading time: 10 minutes I think many people are searching for connection while quietly wondering what would happen if others truly saw the real them. Even when surrounded by other people, loneliness can still exist when we do not feel fully…
Read MoreWhy Intentions Often Work Better Than Resolutions
What if the new year wasn’t about becoming someone else, but reconnecting with yourself? Estimated reading time: 10 minutes Growing up, my mother always said she found New Year’s Eve depressing. As a child, I never understood why. She made New Year’s Eve feel magical, though. We’d eat nachos with melted queso, drink Sprite from…
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